Over Analysis vs. Use of Common Sense

Analysis -

The examination and evaluation of the relevant information to select the best course of action from among various alternatives.

Common Sense -

Sound and prudent judgment based on a simple perception of the situation or facts


Just as there is a thin line between love and hate, there is a thin line between over-analyzing a person's actions (and therefore reading things into it that aren't indicated at all) and using one's common sense to determine the underlying meaning of and feelings that prompt those actions.

As a growing and flawed woman, I feel that I am often prone to over-analyze, particular when I am in a relationship.

It NEVER turns out good.

I have been most guilty of this behavior when things start getting rocky in a relationship...OR when things change in the relationship. <~ Because of my bad habit, often these two situations turn out to be one and the same, although they don't have to be.


HOWEVER

There comes a point in time when a person's repeated actions can equal only one conclusion about their feelings about a given individual and/or situation, no matter how much they claim you are over-analyzing those actions. Also, if those actions are harmful to or disrespectful of you, no matter what feelings they indicate, they can no longer be seen as acceptable forms of interaction.


A "friendship" with a recent ex has got to be the most interesting scenario for this dynamic to play out.


On one hand, you have one or two people acting from places of pain, rejection, and resentment, regardless of the feelings they may or may not still have for one another. Even the possibility of these feelings makes you want to stick it out...try...hang on to what you had (or the obvious lies about what you didn't have) for just a little while longer.....

On the other hand, you have one or two people simply not willing to cut their losses and walk away from the situation...because of the aforementioned feelings...or pride, or some subconcious sado-masochistic desire to hurt or to be hurt by a person they were deeply connected to.

Very confusing.

I've learned a lot about myself and my former partner in the past three months. As always, hindsight is 20/20, and each failed situation gives me foresight for the next go around (or so I hope).

These days, I often wonder how it can feel like I have a better idea of who a person was that I dated for less than six months than I have of a person I was with for almost three years.


Life is funny like that, but in the end, I think its all about communication.



My list of favorite things includes ex-boyfriends because of lessons like these (and the fact that some of them turn out to be pretty awesome...after awhile).


But suffice it to say the following:

1. Friends act like friends...even when it hurts. Even when it means walking way. :-)



2. Enemies act like enemies, and "friends" acting like enemies are enemies.



3. In this life, you have to look out for Number 1, because no one else is going to do it for you.

If I am over-analyzing, so be it. I call bullshit.

Sometimes, analysis, or even over-analysis has got to be equal to or greater than "common sense".

F*CK YOUR STUDY FOOL! TIME'S UP FOR TIME-OUTS!!!

TIME'S UP FOR TIME-OUTS:

A Public Service Announcement

by SNSakaPurpleRose

(c)2010 (lmao)

This week, there was a study published whose results provide "the strongest evidence yet" against spanking. You know what? I work with the little hell cats every day. I can always tell which children get spanked....and which ones don't.

At my school, the kids who get spanked will go there with you, but as soooooon as you mention "calling home" their asses get in line...and they stay that way. They understand that if they don't do the classwork according to the requirements...the specifications of the assignments...AND ON TIME...they will fail.

IN SHORT, THEY UNDERSTAND THAT THERE ARE CONSEQUENCES TO THEIR ACTIONS.

The kids who don't get spanked will go there with you, and when you mention calling home, they say, "I don't care; call her ass. I ain't scared of my ma."

When all you do is talk to your children...put them in time out after they talk to you any kind of way...THEY DO NOT RESPECT YOU.

They want an "A" for turning in CRAP.

They want credit for coming to class at all (as they are supposed to).

They talk back to their teachers, the administrators at the school, and other children tend to dislike them as well...because they have no respect.

Instead, they have a sense of entitlement that will get them NOWHERE FAST in this world...not when they go to college...not when they get into the work force, and DAMN SURE (if they are Black) not when dealing with the Po-Po's.

THAT FACT, THAT DIFFERENCE, plus generations of folks who have turned out JUST fine, excelled in their various fields and pursuits, and have gone on to raise beautiful families of their own provide all of the "hard data" I need. When I have them, my kids are going to GET THAT ASS WHUPPED!

For the jackasses who conducted the study (who obviously picked some folks spanking with no routine, expectations, and conversation/instruction before and/or after the spanking), here are some basic rules:

Rule 1

Let your child know the rules and expectations. That way, when you beat their ass, they will have some idea of why.

Rule 2

Calm down and rest up before the beating. Take your time. Let the child build the beating up in his/her mind. Let them THINK about why they are getting it in the first place. Don't do it when angry. The excess energy is good (so you don't get tuckered out halfway through it); the failure to let the kid know what they did wrong FOR SURE is bad.

Rule 3

Explain what the child has done wrong. Let the child know which rules and expectations he/she has violated. Also, while you are at it, let them know that in a million years, he or she will NEVER be smart enough to really get one over on you. Personally, at a young age...the whole choose the belt thing is what I would do....then, when they get to be older and more sneaky, I suggest letting them come in...Make them think they got away with it. Then, when they got out of their clothes for bed........proceed to the shining.

~THE BEATING INSTRUCTIONS~

Now that you understand how to do this while getting the child "to understand what and why they have done something wrong", let's proceed to the beating itself.

Step 1. The Hold

For younger children, grasp the child firmly (being careful not to leave marks on the arm.) Older children should have learned to stand still during punishment, because running only makes it worse.

Step 2. The Stance

Turn the child so the buttocks is facing you. You want as much contact between the buttocks and belt as possible.

Step 3. The BELT/PADDLE

Choose the right object to whup the child with. A bigger belt is good; anything that is firm enough to make an impact AND noise helps. (In smaller children, many times the noise is more effective than the pain inflicted by the belt.) For boys between 12-14 (past that point the beating by a mother is fairly pointless), I suggest Mr. Happy (the same paddle as pictured above, just with holes drilled in order to provide a greater impact by decreasing the "cushioning effect of air" - Source)

Step 4. The WORDS

The words are very important. The words should reinforce the expectations laid out in Rule 1 and the conversation that was held in Rule 3. However, they should be short and simple enough to be spoken between wacks with the belt, or Mr. Happy.

*Beating Script Example*

DIDN'T *smack*...I *smack*...TELL *smack* YO BEHIND/ASS *smack, smack* not *smack* to *smack* ________________________________ *insert name of offense here, with smacks to the ass intermittently depending on age, severity of offense, number of repeat offenses, and level of remorse (genuine, not crocodile tears) here*...NOW GO LAY YO ASS/BEHIND DOWN. AND STOP CRYING, 'FORE I GIVE YA SOMETHIN' TO CRY ABOUT!

Simple.

Now, I don't know who these retarded fucktads are who can't figure out how to beat someone properly, but I suggest they instruct the parents in their little study and try that shat again....cause NOW is NOT the time to stop whuppin children. Parents have to pack a bigger emotional punch than peer pressure. It's war. Your children are at stake. Are you really going count on time out to raise the kind of kid who won't get in a car with a drunk driver or sneak out to that party at the hotel with the 21-year-olds while you think she is at a girlfriend's house and they've gone to Chuck E. Cheese?

I didn't think so.

Remember batter up; it's all in the wrist.

Here is a video, for your viewing pleasure....

Why you should beat your kids

Kyle | MySpace Video

A Time to Kill

For some reason, despite the numerous situations in which people respect the reality of grays in moral behavior these days, one area that seems to make many uncomfortable is that of a LOGICAL death. For some reason, people don't realize that there are lines in life that we don't cross, and if we do cross those lines, we should expect there to be some violent, and sometimes tragic repercussions. The movie A Time to Kill (1996) illustrates this point in graphic detail.

Call me crazy, but I am of the firm belief that any man who uses his physical strength to physically harm a female (especially in a sexual way) should not be surprised if he is introduced to death personally. It is only understandable for her father, brothers, cousins, and/or any other male in her family/life charged with her protection and safety to handle the situation.

Understand, I do not feel that it is the STATE'S place to do this. I think it should be a family matter.

I love all seven of my uncles dearly, but if one of them raped a woman, this applies to them as well.

I have twelve male cousins. If one of them raped a woman, I would not stand up for him if the family of the victim came to deal with him. I am damned sure not risking my life to prevent the logical consequence of their behavior.

What about Anarchy?

As a society, Americans, particularly the middle class, rely too much on a corrupt judicial system to maintain order in our towns. We are too comfortable letting the cops "handle it" or not...based on their expertise, dedication, and your relative importance as a citizen to the overall system.

There is something about a man using his strength to hurt a female that simply enrages me. For me, that is one definite "Time to Kill" moment. Post-rape is not the only time to kill for me, but it is the first one that comes to mind.

Other time to kill moments:

1. Kidnapping of one's wife or children - Kidnapper deserves to get it.
2. Getting caught in the act of adultery with another person in the bed you and your spouse share. - Honestly, the spouse shouldn't be surprised to get it; the lover can get it too if he/she knew what was up.
3. During the robbery of a home - You knew you were violating someone's sanctuary; if someone shoots you in the face for breaking into their shit and potentially harming their loved ones, don't get that "dick look" on your face when the bullet hits home.

What about our lack of standing to make decisions on whether or not another person deserves to die in our "humanism"? AKA "What about God/Forgiveness/Grace, etc...?"

I know many of you, particularly Christians, don't believe that human beings can make the call that others deserve to die. I don't even want to touch on the hypocrisy of the concept, given the long and gory history of this particular religion; this blog is already tooo damn long. But suffice it to say that:

1. Even in your Bible, there is such a thing as "A Time to Kill"...go fig, right?

2. I find it hilarious that the prescribed consequence of RAPE in that same Bible is for the father to GIVE THE RAPED DAUGHTER OVER TO THE RAPIST IN EXCHANGE FOR A CASH PAYMENT.

DON'T BELIEVE ME? LOOK IT UP YOURSELVES BY FOLLOWING THE LINKS.

As they say, "Selah" - pause, and think on that.

I could go on, but that is all....Simply put:

We know where the lines are folks. Don't cross em, and if you do, well....Don't Act Brand New!!!

Easter Blog - Transfer from The Space

First things first, folks!!!

This past week, I have heard the question posed several times:

What the hell do the Easter Bunny and egg hunts have to do with the "REAL" meaning of Easter
(the celebration of the resurrection of Jesus Christ)????

My first thought was that it must have had to do with traditional symbols of fertility and renewal/rebirth. In fact, when they mentioned it in the hair salon the first time, my first response was that the rabbits must have come in because of how much they like to have sex.

I wasn't joking, but I really had no clue just how close my answer was/is to the actual truth of the matter...without having read up on it....just based on what I know about religion and history, and what I felt when I walked outside...you know, that feeling you get the first day when your mind, body and soul all recognize that Springtime has come round again.





Much respect to artist Connie Tom.


Soooooo for those of you who have been asking about the connection between the flowers, the eggs, the bunny, and Jesus, here is this enlightening article.

How's the Easter Bunny connected to Easter?
Egg-delivering rabbit's origins traced back to 13th century

By Lauren Effron

Discovery Channel

updated 10:47 a.m. CT, Fri., April 2, 2010

There's no story in the Bible about a long-eared, cotton-tailed creature known as the Easter Bunny. Neither is there a passage about young children painting eggs or hunting for baskets overflowing with scrumptious Easter goodies.

And real rabbits certainly don't lay eggs.

So why are these traditions so ingrained in Easter Sunday? And what do they have to do with the resurrection of Jesus?

Well, nothing.

Bunnies, eggs, Easter gifts and fluffy, yellow chicks in gardening hats all stem from pagan roots. They were incorporated into the celebration of Easter separately from the Christian tradition of honoring the day Jesus Christ rose from the dead.

According to University of Florida's Center for Children's Literature and Culture, the origin of the celebration — and the Easter bunny — can be traced back to 13th century, pre-Christian Germany, when people worshiped several gods and goddesses. The Teutonic deity Eostra was the goddess of spring and fertility, and feasts were held in her honor on the Vernal Equinox. Her symbol was the rabbit because of the animal’s high reproduction rate.*

Read the rest of the article here. *emphasis added

I am not sure how many times the answer has to link back to "pagan religions" for people to realize that the way that we relate and connect to our planet, i.e. the changing seasons and the spiritual principles reflected in that physical reality is constantly growing and evolving...and in the way we do it today, it is somewhat lopsided and incomplete. It may be a bold statement to make (especially on Easter Sunday itself with the current meaning it holds for many Christians), but any celebration of an Easter Resurrection that doesn't acknowledge the rebirth and renewal of the planet and all living things on it...that doesn't celebrate divinely feminine principles of fertility and the lush sexuality in the air would be incomplete. There is a reason (outside of simple commercialism) that we hold fast to these so-called "pagan" traditions. In celebrating an Easter with primarily male connections alongside the feminine counterpart, we honor a certain balance that is evident all around us. Spring, the time when plants come alive, revealing their sexual organs again, seducing each other without saying a word, (all for our viewing and sniffing pleasure ) is something that affects all of us in evident, and not so evident ways.

Sooooo...enjoy your church services, and celebrate the idea of rebirth, renewal, and resurrection in a masculine form....and take the time to sniff a rose, lily, tulip or two, give away some chocolate, and appreciate the viral quality in a rabbit, for those parts definitely have their place as well.

Again, Happy Easter,

SNS aka Purple Rose

About Me.....

LOL...I have no idea what I want to tell the readers who eventually may or may not find their way to this particular blog................................................................................okay, I got it.

1. I am a work in progress, as are we all.

2. I am a spiritual person, but not religious. I believe in spiritual principles more than I believe in the idea that there is one RIGHT religion, one RIGHT way to worship God or even one RIGHT name for God. If this offends you, I am sorry; it is simply my belief system.

3. I am sensual, sexual, AND have respect for myself. If something I say here indicates to you that I don't; you are wrong, but entitled to your own opinion (as am I).

I post "blogs" with my opinion on issues, as well as fictional pieces. I would love constructive criticism on anything I post, but don't appreciate plagiarism.